I will always remember one of the talks that had a real impact on me. It was a talk by coach John wooden where he talked about his own definition of success. He went through his own story and how he behaved with his own team players and what are the values he tried to teach them. But what actually scripted me was a text he recited at the end of his talks about success. From someone I don’t properly recall , but I learned by hearth a major part of it and it goes like this :
“We win or lose within ourselves, the shining trophies on our shelves can never win tomorrow’s game. You and I know deeper down, there is always a chance to win the crown but when we fail to give our best, we simply haven’t met the test. Of giving all and saving none until the game is really won, of showing what is meant by grit, of playing through when others quit of playing through not giving up, its bearing down that wins the cup , of dreaming there is a goal ahead, of praying when our dreams have fled, yet loosing not afraid to fall if bravely we have giving all. For whom asks more of a man than giving all within his span, giving all it seems to me, is not so far from victory”
I remember this words which resonated within me, it was like someone who spoke for me.
I also remember watching a talk by Amy Cuddy on body language (Power posing), how it affects how we feel and we can use it to our advantage. It was the first time I heard about the relation between our body and our mind, I had discovered the power of non-verbal (gestures communication) as social scientists refer to it. I was so fascinated that I started working on my body language. I was constantly doing an audit of my body language. I worked to communicate power and self-confidence, I learned to look people in the eyes to communicate empathy and deep connection, I learned how to compliment others body language, I also learned to decipher, or at least have a clue, on people body language which really helped me in my social interactions. But It was not enough, I wanted more. Because the moment you discover the power of such routines in work, you are amazed by all the possibilities and the achievements you can accomplish if you keep improving yourself. It goes beyond body language, I was working on myself on every way possible. The self-improvement takes you through the way of achieving and becoming a better version of yourself. Eric Thomas, one of my favorite motivational speakers put it that way “You got to be willing to give up what you are for what you will become”.
Soon enough, I was lucky to be called by a friend of mine which informed me that a recruitment session has been scheduled in our school. It was a firm for which I had applied two times and I wasn’t retained [I take this opportunity to thank this friend for what he has done for me]. I was ready by the time by any means, not that I improved drastically but somehow something happened within me. I was hired.
The dots started to connect for me. We certainly grow by our failures but our successes reinforce our faith that the best is yet to come.
I genuinely believe that each one of us has, in one point of time, experienced a similar feeling of defeat. May be in other circumstances. But setbacks remain an important part of our life that we have to learn to handle effectively. As Jim Rohn put it “The arrival of winter finds us in one of two categories: Either we are prepared or we are unprepared”. It sure helps to be on the good side of the wall.
In this blog, I will be sharing insights from the material I use for my personal development, mainly books.
I hope you will enjoy those posts and that they could help you somehow on your journey.
I wish you all the best.